Julia Hawley & Jim DuBay
THIS COUPLE TOOK A CHANCE ON LOVE YET LET PRACTICALITY RULE THE WEDDING PLAN—THE COMBO RESULTED IN A PERFECT DAY.
JIM AND JULIA MET ONLINE, their early communication limited to daily messaging. Even when Jim finally made plans for a date, it so happened he was working in upstate New York for six weeks. Julia accepted his offer of a phone date, but she says, “In his version of the story, I said, ‘I’ll probably meet someone else by the time you get back.’” After a few more phone dates, he offered to fly her to Syracuse for four days. “My friends said absolutely not,” she says, “and my family said go for it. We’ve been together ever since.”
For the proposal, Jim enlisted the help of some friends, a recently engaged couple, who asked Julia to help them take some photos at Red Rocks. “On the day of, a chilly December morning, I spent hours trying to get some really great shots of my friends,” says Julia. “As far as I knew, Jim was working in Chicago and not freezing in a hole behind the stage.” The friends suggested Julia take some shots from onstage, and Jim was there, down on one knee. “It definitely took me a few beats to comprehend that I wasn’t there for a photo shoot.”
When it came to wedding planning, the couple was very deliberate in their decision making. “Right after we got engaged,” says Julia, “we spent time ranking all the elements of a wedding in order of what we cared about most down to what we didn’t care about at all. We threw out anything we didn’t care about at all, including some traditional elements like a bouquet toss or a large cake.”
They wanted a cozy winter wedding in a venue that provided a real Colorado Rockies experience for their guests. They had a Catholic ceremony for family at the tiny St. Malo’s Chapel on the Rock and then a second, less formal ceremony at the reception venue with all their guests. “The second ceremony focused on communicating Jim’s and my vision of marriage,” says Julia. “We also wanted to focus the wedding on honoring our guests instead of ourselves.”
To that end, they incorporated a number of meaningful and personal elements, including a “ring warming” in which guests touched the rings on their way into the ceremony and thus sent their good wishes to the couple. Also, using the traditional unity candle from their church service, they used that flame to start a chain reaction, lighting candles held by each guest, and they asked the group to say, “I do,” in support of their marriage. “It was a very cool moment,” says Julia.
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